Which then makes you feel ashamed, so to combat that you go right back into fantasy. Your wife is upstairs and you are banging her best friend on the couch.
It isn’t enough to have sex with a co-worker; you have to do it on your boss’s desk.
So many people get all worked up about the sex addict thing. I did all 10 of the things on this list in all of my relationships.
If you are doing things that are going to screw you over in the future, and you KNOW they are going to screw you over in the future, then your sex life has crossed the line and is now officially a problem. There are a myriad of different things that people do to get off, and whether or not you like to be tied up, or walk your girlfriend on a leash isn’t the issue.
No matter what went on in my life, no matter how fucked up it got, no matter what I lost it didn’t matter; I couldn’t, or maybe wouldn’t, stop.
The most important thing to me in the world, by far, was sex and all the adrenaline and anxiety that came with it. First, I lost my job because I was having affairs with so many people at work.
Or if you aren’t fantasizing, you are planning your next move.
And if you aren’t planning your next move, you are having sex.
Perhaps, you were doing great at your job, but you got fired after getting caught in your office beating off to porn.