The ability to pursue serial and clandestine extramarital affairs while safeguarding other secrets and conflict of interest inherent in the practice, requires skill in deception and duplicitous negotiation.Even to hide one affair requires a degree of skill or malicious gaslighting. Deception can be defined as the "covert manipulation of perception to alter thoughts, feelings, or beliefs".In online affairs, people try to enjoy the benefits of both close and remote affairs, while avoiding their flaws.People enjoy the highly valued products of close affairs while paying the low cost of remote affairs.Others date to meet new people and enjoy themselves without getting entangled in anything serious. If you know exactly what you want, you might expect your partner to want the same thing.But don't assume anything unless you have both agreed to it. Scott Thompson has been writing professionally since 1990, beginning with the "Pequawket Valley News." He is the author of nine published books on topics such as history, martial arts, poetry and fantasy fiction.
An extramarital affair that continues in one form or another for years, even as one of the partners to that affair passes through marriage, divorce and remarriage, could be considered the primary relationship and the marriages secondary to it.From college onward, people are more likely to date in hopes of meeting the person they would like to marry. The reality of modern relationships is more complex than distinguishing between "dating" on one side and "girlfriend or boyfriend" on the other.If two people have been dating for some time, one or both of them may consider marriage a possibility. Some people date because they want a committed relationship with long-term potential. If you are not sure of your status with the person you've been seeing, it is time for a relationship talk.The presence of deception may indicate the degree to which the deceiver has breached fundamental conditions of fidelity, of reciprocal vulnerability and of transparency.Sometimes these are explicit or assumed pre-conditions of a committed intimate relationship.Like direct, face-to-face affairs, online affairs can be spontaneous and casual and show intensive personal involvement.