But if you are not sure if you are looking for a relationship, or you are simply in the market for fun, is it appropriate to share this before the first date to avoid confusion? In the article, the author describes a text she received from a man she’d met at the dog park - before they’d even gone on their first date.“Paul let me know that he was really excited to meet me, but that he didn’t really know what he was looking for right now.Because, if the relationship progresses, then that is great.But if it crashes and burns, then you are free to fall back on the warning you gave at the start of a relationship.However, the author did acknowledge that the text clearly “defines his expectations” - saving her from frantically trying to figure it out later on.We asked people whether this pre-date transparency is a convenient dating trend or a deal-breaker - and whether we should be open with potential dates about what we are looking for before we meet them.
Then, out of nowhere he just completely loses interest in seeing you.
Carl*, a 30-year-old writer, told : "Dating - especially using apps in a big city - is inherently pretty shallow.
So I don't feel too bad about hedging my bets by saying 'I don't know what I'm looking for' at the start.
A good partner will care deeply about your happiness, just as you would about theirs.
When he generally does not seem to care if you are happy, he does not really care about you.
“A first date could just be a first date and nothing more so why think about the future like that? “But, if you definitely don’t want a relationship, maybe it is not a bad thing to give a heads-up.” According to relationship expert and founder of Spoonmeet Spoon, Meredith Golden, who spoke to Elite Daily, "It's okay not to know." Golden said: "Dating someone and seeing how you feel about them can help you determine which way you want something to develop.