Do you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? The reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss.Let me shift your attention to the fact that you this guy.Rather than wanting him to change, the better path is to move towards understanding each other better.Understanding each other is the basis of connection.The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.
There are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good.If you want the relationship to move forward, find deeper areas where you can reach him and inspire him.But let’s take a completely different side of this…But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.Especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want.You chose him – you knew what kind of an animal he was when you started going out.